If a bully picks on me, should I fight back?
Standing up to bullies doesn't mean you have to have a physical fight with them. Most of the time, you don't have to fight. There are almost always more effective ways to deal with bullies — ways that are better for you.
Sometimes people feel they need to (or want to) fight a bully. They may feel that they're being physically threatened right at that moment and need to protect themselves. They may think fighting back will teach the bully a lesson or be the best way to escape.
Some people may feel pressured by others to fight back even when they don't really want to. Feeling pressured by other people is not a good reason to fight.
There is no easy answer to the question about when someone should fight back physically. Some bullies don't actually want to fight. They just like to intimidate others or show off in front of their friends. Other bullies back down without a fight if the person they are targeting stands up to them.
Some bullies like to get into a fight. They might like to cause pain to others or feel pain themselves.
Fighting can get dangerous. A fight sometimes leads to serious injuries. The bully might have a weapon. Fighting may make the bully feel like he or she has to come back later with a weapon or friends to help and the whole thing can get out of control.
So, what can people do if bullied to feel more in control and able to defend themselves? If you're being bullied, talk with a trusted adult such as a parent, teacher, counselor, or coach. They can get involved to help. Most schools and work places do not tolerate bullies and have strict anti-bullying rules.
In some cases, it also might be necessary to get help from the police. After all, if a bully physically attacks someone, it's assault and that's a crime. If a bully uses a weapon or threatens to use one, it can result in severe penalties for the bully, including expulsion from school, arrest, and even prison.
For people who want to build skills and improve confidence, taking self-defence classes can help. Even for people who never need to use self-defence skills, just learning them can be very helpful.
In a few rare situations, fighting back may be the only way out at that moment. Fighting back physically is only a good idea when there is no other choice to avoid injury. But in almost all other cases, there are better, more effective, and safer choices.
Krishna & James at Byron Bay. The Force is Strong with this one!
